Well, here at pardymama, I try to walk the line of airing my opinion whilst remaining compassionate in judgment. I'm not here to say "don't do this or that" - I'm far from being your Holy Spirit. But, it is my blog and frankly, I get to write what I want about whatever I want, so here we go... Personally, I will not be reading "50 Shades of Grey". Not only does it kinda gross me out at the thought of putting descriptive words about S&M in my head, but I have no desire to seek out sexual escape that reaches beyond my marriage. That being said, feel free to judge me about making a judgment about something I haven't and won't take part in. Fair enough.
So, why am I even writing this post?
This is what I'm saying: as Christians, as wives, as mothers...red flags should be popping up on our radar when so many women are seeking fantasy. This is dangerous stuff, wildfire even. It's not that "50 Shades of Grey" is the problem...it's what it represents. The popularity of such material just showcases the fact that "maybe something better exists out there" - a tease at our fantasy world, an escape from our life of burp rags and dish gloves, an outlet away from our husband who forgot to pick up the gallon of milk.
Fantasy for women is very emotional, and leaves us heartsick at the notion that either we aren't good enough to be worthy of a better life, or resentful at the fact that we deserve more.
Entertaining thoughts of a better life than the one God has given us stirs in our souls a belief that is nothing more than a downright lie: "I'm missing out". If you don't believe me, just ask Eve...you can start at Genesis 1:1 and go from there and give me a call when you get to the good part.
So, I'm here to say, guard your heart. This isn't about sex. This isn't about a pop-culture-phenomenon-book they are talking about on Entertainment Tonight. This isn't about "but, Emily, you don't understand...my husband is so blah blah blah". I understand there are hurting marriages out there, and there is actual, tangible help available for you to heal and find God's BEST for you. But, to the majority of us - be wise and aware to the warning and quick to question whatever "fantasy" that you might partake and what it may actually be rustling up in you.
Maybe, it's not so much that you need a new partner as it is you need a new perspective.
Remember when you first started dating your husband and you just felt like he was your entire world? As your marriage grows and your love deepens and your kids start eating into your time together, it is amazing how roles in relationships change. Sure, there is the mundane - the fact that my spouse is the handyman and the trash man and the tech geek and even the kitty litter changer. But, he is so much more than that. The next time you are tempted to wish for a new life or a different spouse, I want you to remember that God has given you a man who is a perfect fit to fulfill all the roles you need him for in your life together as a married couple. In other words, it's what I like to call:
50 Shades of Marriage
19. [the] One
20. Biggest Fan
32. Better Half
33. Ball and/or Chain
What more could you possibly want?